I‘m angry that my maintenance/weight loss calories are so low
Hi Heather, I really love your podcast and just subscribed. Especially because you talk numbers and give so many examples which doesn’t happen a lot in other resources. I lost weight slowly with 1400 calories per day ( I am 5.5 feet and weight currently 185,2, lost 30 lbs in 11 months. I had some trouble sticking to those calories for so long and according to all the calculators I should be able to eat more and still lose but eating an average of 1600 for 40 days resulted in 0 weight loss and it should have been 4 lbs according to the calculator. I walk every day an hour and do some strength training and I guess putting this into the calculation mislead it, or other I don’t burn calories with movement? My wish is to get to a sustainable calorie amount for weight loss (goal around 150 lbs) and really know it works because not being sure sends me in a spiral wanting to give up. Maybe you have an advice. Thank you
Food Grievance after all this time
Hi Heather, First and foremost, thank you for everything you do, your podcast really changed my life. I am 44 year old female, just under 5’4 and have weight cycled since my 20s. In this most recent go around I made the change to take my time and maintenance breaks. I took 2 1/2 years to go from 205 pounds to a goal of 165. I achieved that in November and have been solidly maintaining since then. Here’s the rub: while I’m ok full-wise most of the time, I go through periods where I feel like a bottomless pit. Then I grieve about how I can’t eat to the point that I used to and feel stuffed. With so many maintenance breaks and dealing with my emotions surrounding food for so many years, it surprises me when these strong feelings of grief still pop up around food. Do you still go through this? Please tell me it goes away after years of maintenance! Thank you for all you do, Bonnie
Parter with weight issues
Hi Heather, I work daily on eating healthy and exercising to a varying degree of success. My husband is very overweight and does not attempt to watch calories. How can i deal with the resentment i have towards him for not caring about his body or health. I have gotten to the point where he buys oreos and little debbies and i am not tempted to eat them so the food in the house is not the problem. I want him to be healthy but i also do not want to shame him into eating healthy because that will cause his own resentment towards me. I know from my past, i had to be in the right headspace to attempt weight loss. If anyone would have said anything to me about my weight it would just cause shame and embarrassment. Are there any tips on working with an overweight partner to get motivated. Thank you, Karen
Bizarre snacking
Sorry, my last entry was accidentally sent. I'll try again. I'm 61 years old, 5'6", and currently weigh between 152-154 pounds. I like to maintain my weight around 144-148 pounds and I've been able to do that for the last twenty years by eating a healthy diet: plenty of protein and good fats as well as quality carbs and occasional treats. In the last couple of months, however, I've begun snacking every day between 3 and 6. Even if I plan a snack and sit down to eat it I still find myself in the kitchen looking for more. I don't think I binge, but I eat a lot of little bites. I might eat a dozen different things: a couple of almonds, a tiny scoop of Nutella, a date, a spoonful of granola, a stick of celery, a bite of carrot, some sweet pepper, a mouthful of yogurt, a bite of rice pudding, a single chocolate, a spoonful of maple syrup, a 1/4 of a banana...you get the idea. There's a voice in my head asking "What are you doing?" But I ignore it. I feel compelled to eat. Part of me knows I'm being ridiculous; I don't need all that food and I'm spoiling my appetite for dinner which my husband and I usually eat around 6:45 - 7 o'clock. I always take fairly small portions at dinner but I am still gaining weight. The thing is, I care and yet I don't care; that's what confuses me. When I'm in the kitchen sampling everything I'm having fun. I tell myself I'm in control because I don't eat a lot of any one thing no matter how delicious it might be. But once the urge to eat has passed I wonder at myself. What was I doing? I can feel my clothes getting tighter and I don't like it. I feel afraid. I was 188 pounds when I was 18 and I found it very uncomfortable. I lost that weight and the heaviest I've been since was when I was in my mid-40s and I got up to 162 pounds. I gave up wine and the weight fell off. Since then, as I said, I've managed to maintain my weight between 144 and 148 pounds. I don't know what's got into me or how you might be able to help me, but I am writing because I'm always impressed with your insights into your listeners' situations and I hope you might be able to give me some direction. Each day, I tell myself tomorrow I'll behave myself, have a reasonable snack, and go for a walk or do some yoga or read a book between 3 and 6, but the next day when 3 o'clock rolls around I'm right back at it, browsing the kitchen and snick-snacking for a half hour or so. Thanks, in advance, for your help. And thanks for your super podcast. another Heather