What really is binging?
Hi Heather, and thank you so much for all your smart, witty, practical advice. I have gotten so much out of listening to your podcast over the past few years. So...I am a binge eater. I started when I was about 8, after my parents divorced and I was left at home alone often, sometimes overnight, which I found very stressful. I quickly figured out that food made me feel both loved and soothed, and like there was some benefit to this awful situation--I could eat as much as I wanted unobserved. It was one of the few things i had the power to do for myself. I'm 51 now, and weigh 362 lbs. I've lost and regained about 730 pounds over the last 20 years. I love the advice you've given Karolina to pre-track binge foods and eat them, and I was intrigued by her saying she did not enjoy the fast food as much because she was not able to eat it tucked up on her couch in magic binge mode. I am worried I will not be able to stop myself from binging by doing this because it feels like magic binge mode is more what binging is than the actual food. The desire is to feel comfortable, safe, and cozily fed--for the mind to go elsewhere--almost a disembodied, dissociated feeling. Was it like you for that? Anyway, I saved enough calories today due to sleeping late that I only needed two meals, so I pre-tracked a whole bag of BBQ pop chips and ate them. I still came in under my 2000 calorie target for the day, but I feel like a binged, and it worries me. Is it ok to go into that mode when you are not, in fact, overeating and it doesn't result in you reaching for more food afterward? It feels like it's not ok, and that binge euphoria is what needs to be stamped out. Also, after eating all that salt and starch, I felt dried out and cruddy--another sign of a binge. Ugh. I hate my brain. Thank you for reading my question! Katie T.
No question … just a thank you
Hello, I can not seem to find the adequate words to express my gratitude for the community you have built and hard work in making the maintainers PDF. I am simply BLOWN away with the information in this document. I have learned so much since joining HSM 1/2021. I call myself a HSM lifer now. I use my HSM tools not only in my eating and weight management but also in my everyday life. I am simply a better human being because of HSM. Thank you.
No question … just a thank you
Hello, I can not seem to find the adequate words to express my gratitude for the community you have built and hard work in making the maintainers PDF. I am simply BLOWN away with the information in this document. I have learned so much since joining HSM 1/2021. I call myself a HSM lifer now. I use my HSM tools not only in my eating and weight management but also in my everyday life. I am simply a better human being because of HSM. Thank you.
Does it have to be a chocolate bar?
After listening to the coaching call with Karolina, I want to follow something similar. I am very intrigued on the idea of trying something different as what I am doing (or not doing) isn't working and I am finally accepting that. My daily paper food log will have at the top "Weight Loss is not my goal. Gaining control of my health is my goal." My question is does it have to be a daily chocolate bar or should it be an item that is a current addiction food? For me personally, candy really isn't that much of a temptation, but sugary coffee drinks are! Would having a daily coffee treat be acceptable to substitute? If so, does it need to be a drink that I purchase from somewhere or can it be something I prepare at home? I have a realized that I have a massive food delivery/drive thru food addiction that I am going to work into having a meal 3x a week at first but making it a requirement to go sit down and eat at the food establishment, not from a drive thru or delivery. But I certainly don't want to make eating out a daily item. Any suggestions? Thanks.
Maybe need to gain weight purposefully?
Hi Heather, I have lost 175 lbs over a long period of time, but only since January have I been at this low weight (154, 5'8") that I've maintained for 6 months. I feel very good at this weight. However, I have a big loose skin removal surgery scheduled next month. I have a large amount of skin and subcutaneous fat, so it's possible I will lose another 10+ pounds as a result. My concern is that I'm already uncomfortable with people telling me I look "too thin". What if I end up feeling that I do want to gain back some weight after I've recovered from surgery? Would you have any advice on how to determine whether I'm doing this for myself versus in response to others' comments? And how to do this carefully and without going back into gaining too much? I may be getting ahead of myself since surgery is a month away, but I'd like to prepare the best I can. Thanks!